The Psychiatric Ward

If people were brought up to cuss, their parents should be spanked.

Vicar said:

If people were brought up to cuss, their parents should be spanked.

If you were to say that, I would reply in kind; Those who hold to such ignorance should be spanked.

Again, you may hold one view on something, but someone else may hold another. Now, it doesn't mean you are right. Nor, does it mean you are wrong. Merely different and mutual respect of each others views is key to avoiding conflict.

Holding the thought that you do, which I quoted, is disrespectful to a very great degree.

I'm sorry...

You're name is Alexis yes?

Well, I'm Josh.

I'm not trying to belittle you, or make you feel sad. Merely trying to pass on some personal lessons. I can fully understand where you're coming from with your views. Except through all the crap I've gone through in life - learning to respect the differences in peoples views is something that will help you through life quite a lot.

So please, Alexis, do not feel bad, and do not apologise. There's no need to. I just ask that you think on what I said.

Just keep an open mind, and remember that not everyone was raised the same as you. Whether it be religion, or other views. That's all

« Last edited by sphynxx on 29th Dec 2011 »

I was brought up the same way but it doesn't mean I don't hear what is said.....I try to respect other people's views and stuff but it is hard to sometimes when it goes against what one believes is right...like when Alexis says If people were brought up to be cussed parents should be spanked that i can agree with cause in my life I have heard and have had the experience of learning that kids often follow what their parents have done thinking its right.

It has been seen many times....for example a parent who as bully when they are in school you may see their kids do it, or if you seen a parent act racists towards people the kid will also pick that up. In the long run we respect others views and wishes but it is really up to the kid whether or not to follow the parent and to choose right from wrong.

Well you see Kimmy - racism, sexism, bullying etc - there something that should be spoken up against. They all do harm to people.

But something like cussing - it really is harmless. The words themselves are meaningless - What I try to teach people is to NOT focus on the word, but focus on the context in which the word is used.

That is crucial. If someone cusses at another person in the vain of "you're an f'n a-hole" - then yes - that is something which should be abhored.

But if I were talking amoungst friends, and someone overheard me say something like "dude that's f'in gross" - the word, and context, is utterly harmless. So people shouldn't find it in anyway negative.

Does that make sense at all to you?

I understand completely now that I've had a moment to consider all that's been said. Perhaps what I said came off as factual thinking rather than an opinion based statement - This was not my intent. I was merely trying to state my opinion on your post regarding the want to cuss resulting from cultures and upbringings.

I was brought up to treat everyone with the utmost respect and never degrade my person with negative thoughts or words. I'm well aware that this is not how most people grow up, and it is unfortunate in my opinion. Life would be so much easier if positive emotions were the only output of one's attitude.

We can't live in a perfect world though now can we?

Vicar said:

I was brought up to treat everyone with the utmost respect and never degrade my person with negative thoughts or words. I'm well aware that this is not how most people grow up, and it is unfortunate in my opinion. Life would be so much easier if positive emotions were the only output of one's attitude.

We can't live in a perfect world though now can we?

I'd like you to read the post I made just before this one of yours.

Cussing itself isn't negative, it isn't harmful - they're only words. It's entirely dependant on context.

Any word in any language can be made to cause harm, it only requires the correct context and intention.

So to me, to believe cuss words are all harmful and negative is silly - when they're really not. Especially not these days.

it does I should know....I was brought up all my life with a father who swears every other word that comes out of his mouth in both harmful and harmless manner, but yet i won't do that, I don't swear at all. But ya I understand where that is coming from.


and no we can't live in a perfect world.

I see where you're coming from Sphynxx. I both agree and disagree at the same time.

Words truly aren't harmful. Not physically anyway. For the most part, people have established what is a curse word and what is not. These 'lists' of curse words are universal for the most part, give or take a few words.

Curse words almost always incite some sort of emotional response. In someone who's, for the most part, innocent minded, it brings forth a strong emotional response of disgust. For the majority of people, though, the response it brings forth is so minute due to the degrading (if you can call it that) culture, it's almost completely disregarded.

Context aside, the face value of a curse word is emotionally hurtful to some people, myself included.

And I do understand that. I truly do. I never intended to come across as if I didn't.

As I said, it all comes down to mutual respect. Whilst my friends and I curse quite openly, I respect the opinions of the majority of users here on SC - so I don't curse much, if at all here.

Mutual respect is something that helps in life. If you meet someone like myself who views cursing as essentially negligible in terms of harm, and you view it as disgusting, if the other person says one or two words in your presence during a long and otherwise fine conversation, then to feel harmed or disrespected would be unwarranted within that situation - as the other person would have respected your views excluding a small moment or two.

If that makes any sense :S haha

It does. Compromise and try to meet someone halfway.

Well yeah, that's the tl;dr version xD

tl;dr?

I'm glad someone actually looks at it like I do....compromising.

Alexis you sure are showing how you can be a outright person that is good ^_^

Vicar said:

tl;dr?

Too long; didn't read. :P

I still prefer to retain an image of innocence. Sometimes it's best to step back and let someone else play the intelligent role. Ignorance is bliss after all, and I prefer the positive emotions.

Thank you sphynxx! Lol

What did I just read. ._.'

Something very long?

No idea Shay.